Crises

In class this week we have talked a lot about crises in the family. We talked about what causes it--a pile up of unexpected events that you are unprepared for. We even talked a little bit about coping factors, and the benefits of crises. How it can bring a family closer together, and bring out strengths that you didn't know you had. Throughout this week I have thought about the crises in my own family, and all of the additives. (Even good stress can add to the pileups.) Stress is caused by change, and I have never adapted well to change. After my dad died in 2009, my life has been a permanent state of breakdowns, and anxiety attacks. Too many things changed at once, and my coping technique, and not a good one, was avoidance. I am still avoiding. I have yet to recover from the two years of constant change, five funerals, two births, four moves, and nine weddings later, I am no more able to cope than when people started showing up at our house two years ago.